Using the "Peace Path" to Solve Conflicts in Early Childhood

One of the most valuable tools we work to teach the children is independence. One way that independence is gained is by allowing the students to resolve their own problems. Although guides are always nearby and willing to help, we allow students to solve their problems themselves whenever possible.

 

One tool we are using to teach conflict resolution is the "peace path." This is a process that emphasizes active listening and reflective language to help students practice the skills of empathy.

 

A student who wants to resolve a conflict invites the other student to the peace table. Each child holds one end of the first card. The card has visual and written prompts for the children. The child with the conflict starts by saying, "I feel (sad, angry, happy, or afraid) when you (explains what happened)." The children put the card down and pick up the next. The second child says, "You feel ...when I...", repeating the concern and demonstrating understanding. The third card has the first child say, "I need... (you to stop doing that, a hug, an icepack, etc.)." The fourth card has the second child say back what he heard, "You need me to..." 

 

The children repeat the process with the second student leading. The second child says how he feels and what he needs. The first child listens and repeats.

 

In the last steps, the children work together to come up with a solution. The fifth card is to brainstorm solutions to the problem. The sixth card is agreeing to one solution. The last step is to give a handshake or hug to "seal the deal."

 

One family shared their experience with the peace path: "Our daughter told us about the Peace Table yesterday. What a great idea! She even made cards for us to use at home. They helped us resolve a conflict about where to hang a Christmas tree ornament last night. Thank you so much for helping the children learn how to negotiate conflicts on their own. So empowering!"